The reason we don’t do certain things, activities, visit certain places, ask people out, etc. is because of feelings of being nervous. It is not that we don’t want to do these things, it is because we are worried about the outcome of the situation.
It is easy to say “what if…”. Instead of saying what if, face the scenario with “what is the worst thing that can happen?” Once you let go of those words controlling you, you might notice that the situation isn’t as bad as you thought so in the beginning. Take some time and think about what your worst case scenarios are and how you would react. Here are a couple of mine:
- Letting myself down→“I know better for next time.”
- People laughing at me→”I am just really funny.”
- Having a coach yell at me→ “He is yelling because he sees potential.”
- Don’t like when others make fun of the way I talk→”They are just jealous.”
- Failing others expectations→”I only care about my expectations.”
- Being judged→”They are judging my great performance.”
- Losing my cool→**Take a deep breath.
Now, if these are your worst case scenarios as well, what would you do if these would occur?